Tis the Season…

23 12 2011

Tis the season to give thanks, give back, and wish merry to all.  This has been a very exciting past 6 months for me and I wanted to say thank you to all my loyal readers, clients, friends and family for your support, encouragement, love and for finding something interesting here and on the web site.

Starting a new business is breathtaking, scary, fraught with possibilities.  Frustrations with computer things, and figuring out supply and demand, financing and the legal maneuvering needed to be on the right track.  I believe we have successfully navigated the first few months with grace and success.  The next few years will tell the tale.

I would like to give a shout out to those that tested and commented and tried and loved or hated all the new products and creations.  My sincerest thanks to Ruth G., Danielle P., and Rhonda D. for your patience and honest input for all the different concoctions I asked you to try.  I hope you will continue to be my “guinea pigs” in the coming years.

I would like to further thank a few others who encouraged me and supported me in my quest to discover this new business and do it right.  Bryce M. for pushing me to be “legal”, Ronnie L. for his support and encouragement and ideas, and Richard G. the first person I told about my idea who took me to task over the web site.

These people are not the only supporters I have had in the least but those that had the biggest impact on my decisions and motivation.  My thanks and love go out to each of you and to everyone else who has been a part of these first few months.

2012 promises to be an even more exciting and creative year.  We hope to branch out more into ParOils (oil based perfumes) and Lip Gloss.  I even have some hope of maybe trying a hair conditioner or mask or maybe some bath soaks.  One never knows what will come into my mind.  LOL.  We hope to branch out onto Etsy, EBay, MomAudience, and maybe even dare I say it “retail” and “wholesale”.  But, I don’t want to get ahead of myself here.  Slow and steady wins the race and afterall this is mostly a hobby.

So stay in touch, keep reading, check the site frequently, give me input and feedback, comment and criticism.  I welcome it all.  Wish us luck and BUY, BUY, BUY.  OK …that was not to subtle was it?  But, hey if I don’t ask for the sale no one will, right?

Thank you to all and wishing everyone love, peace, happiness, a full belly.


A Departure….

19 12 2011

The below article is a deprarture from what this blog is normally about, but I found this so compelling I thought I should share with others.  As the mother of a 7 year old little girl who is very “adult friendly” i.e. not shy around new people, I worry about her interactions with new adults if I am not around. 

I hope you find this as intersting as I did.  It is located on the website www.PediatricSafety.net .

Erin’s Law: Teaching Children to Recognize & Avoid Sexual Abuse

Posted by Jill Starishevsky on December 16, 2011 · 3 Comments

In October, New York State announced it would join the ranks of those states to introduce a bill entitled Erin Merryn’s Law. The measure would require schools to make a change to their existing curriculum for child abduction to include child sexual abuse prevention. This alteration would give critically important information to victims – many of whom do not know there is a way out of their horrific situation. As a child, Merryn was abused by both a neighbor and a family member. She says she stayed silent due to a combination of threats from her abusers, and the lack of knowledge about available help. If passed, New York would become the third state to enact Erin Merryn’s law, following Missouri and Merryn’s home state of Illinois.

In light of recent events at our nation’s universities, parents should continue to be vigilant about teaching child sexual abuse prevention in the home. By age three, children should be taught that their bodies have private parts and no one is to touch those parts (with the necessary medical and hygiene exceptions). Of course children should be taught the correct terminology for their body as nicknames can be confusing and delay a disclosure. The following are some tips that are often overlooked:

  1. When someone tickles a child, if the child says No, all tickling should cease. Children need to know that their words have power and No means No.
  2. Teach children that it is OK to say No to an adult. Without permission from you, many children may be reluctant to do so even if the adult is doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable.
  3. Teach children that all of these lessons apply to other children as well. If another child is touching your child in a way that makes him or her uncomfortable, teach your child to say No, get away and tell someone.
  4. Be careful with the language you use when speaking with children. Avoid saying things such as “Have a good day and do everything your teacher tells you to do.” Children are very literal and need to be told that they should not listen to someone who is telling them to do something that might be harmful to them or to someone else.
  5. Let your child decide how they want to express affection. If they do not want to hug or kiss Grandpa goodbye or sit on Santa’s lap, do not force them. You take away their power over their own body if you force them to be demonstrative in their affection. Children need to be taught their body belongs to them.
  6. Teach children to respect the privacy of others. They should learn to knock on doors that are shut before opening them and close the door to the bathroom when they are using it. If they learn to respect the privacy of others, they may be more likely to recognize that an invasion of their privacy could be a red flag meaning danger.
  7. Use your poker face. Encourage your child to come you if they have questions about anything. Avoid looking shocked or embarrassed by the question. Children who sense their parents’ discomfort will be less inclined to approach the parent next time he or she has a question.

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimate that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused by age 18 in the United States. 93% of the abuse happens at the hands of those entrusted with the care and protection of the child. With the passage of Erin Merryn’s Law, critical information will reach every child in New York State.

Is your state advocating for the welfare of children?





About the Author

Jill Starishevsky

Jill Starishevsky is an Assistant District Attorney in New York City where she has prosecuted hundreds of sex offenders and dedicated her career to seeking justice for victims of child abuse and sex crimes. Outside the courtroom, Jill’s fondness for writing led her to create thepoemlady.com, where she pens personalized pieces for all occasions. Her mission to protect children, along with her penchant for poetry, inspired My Body Belongs to Me, a children’s book intended to prevent child sexual abuse by teaching 3-8 year olds their bodies are private. Jill also manages a discussion group on LinkedIn called Child Safety Network. In October 2006, Jill launched HowsMyNanny.com, an online nanny reporting service that works to keep children safe by enabling parents to receive positive and negative feedback on their child’s caregiver.

About You

19 10 2011

I have written about who I am, but who are you?  Who are you that is reading this blog?  A stay at home Mom looking for ideas for extra money?  A 30 something desirous of a natural way to keep from aging?  An attorney, an entrepreneur, a construction contractor, a salesman?  Or do you see yourself as a Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister? How do you define yourself?

Have you ever really thought about it?  When was the last time you did?  You define yourself in business through your resume, your educational achievements, title, position, salary.  At home you define yourself by your place in the household, caregiver, bread-winner, child, student, rebel, black sheep, angel, do-gooder, housekeeper, cook.

Why do we feel the need to “fall into” or not “fall into” a particular group?  Competition, fear of loss, need to belong, shame, pride, up bringing, all of these play a part don’t you think?  Why do you define yourself the way you do when introducing yourself to others?  Does it matter the circumstances?  Certainly it does.  We are all a part of the human race and that is where the commonality ends. 

When meeting a new client for your service you are the owner, broker, salesman, manager, agent, you would not announce that you are also a parent of “x” children.  When meeting a child’s parent, you become the parent of your child, homemaker, father, mother, sister, brother, grandparent.  Unless you are a teacher, or pediatrician would you automatically announce your job or lack of job.

It is harder than you think to work at assimilating all of your individual “who am I’s” into one concrete and definable whole.  Oh, we try daily but how successful are we?  Do you find yourself turning on and off different personalities?  At work the competent, successful professional that can run a business or department, and when at home a clutter bug and softy with the kids.  Or vice versa.  Now here comes the biggest question of all, should we be the same in all circumstances?

The answer is no we should not.  Different situations demand different responses and personalities and assets to be brought to the situation.  So what is the point of this discussion you are asking?  The point is to ask “Who are you?”.    Can you define yourself?   How would you define yourself?  Does it change overtime?  I challenge anyone who reads this to attempt the exercise and comment.  Answer the question.  Who am I?